Toddler Tips: Navigating the Terrific Twos and Threes
There is so much joy in the journey through toddler-hood but we can all occasionally use some help in finding our way through the trials and tribulations.
Having a toddler is like living with a tiny, energetic explorer. They’re between the ages of one and three and are constantly discovering the world around them, testing boundaries, and figuring out who they are. While this stage is full of delightful moments, it can also be challenging as toddlers begin to assert their independence, explore their emotions, and develop social skills.
Here are some tips to help make the toddler years a little smoother for both you and your little one:
1. Use Positive Language
Toddlers are still learning how to process information, and they often don’t respond well to negative commands. Instead of saying “Don’t touch that,” try saying “Please come over here” or “Let’s look at this instead.” This simplifies things for them and is more likely to get their attention.
2. Get Their Attention
If your toddler isn’t following directions, make sure you have their full attention. Rather than shouting from across the room, approach them, get eye contact, and gently touch their arm or shoulder. This will help them focus and understand what you’re asking.
3. Don’t Offer Choices If There Aren’t Any
When it’s time to do something non-negotiable, don’t give your toddler the chance to say no. Instead of asking, “Do you want to pick up your toys?” simply say, “Let’s pick up the toys so we can play something else.” Keep it clear and simple, and model the behaviour you want them to follow.
4. Give Positive Reinforcement
Whenever your toddler follows instructions or behaves well, offer praise. Positive attention helps reinforce good behaviour. If your child helps clean up or shares a toy, give them a high-five or say, “Great job!” This lets them know what actions are desirable.
5. Stay Calm and Consistent
Toddlers often test boundaries and push limits. When they do, try to remain calm and consistent in your response. If they throw a tantrum, avoid giving in or raising your voice. Calmly redirect their attention or give them a moment to cool down before explaining why the behaviour isn’t acceptable.
6. Model Desired Behaviour
Toddlers are watching everything you do and will often imitate your actions. If you want them to use gentle hands with a pet or sibling, show them by doing it yourself first. You can also help them physically by guiding their hands, saying “Let’s pat the puppy gently,” and showing them the right way.
7. Teach About Emotions
Toddlers are just starting to understand their feelings, but they don’t always have the words to express them. Help them identify their emotions by labelling how they’re feeling. You could say, “I can see you’re upset because it’s time to leave,” or “It looks like you’re feeling happy because we’re playing together.” This helps them connect emotions to words, giving them tools to express themselves.
8. Be Prepared for Outings
Outings can be a challenge for toddlers, especially when they’re tired or overstimulated. Plan ahead by preparing your child for what to expect. Tell them about the trip, what’s going to happen, and what kind of behaviour you expect. Bring a favourite toy or give them simple tasks (like holding your shopping list) to keep them engaged.
9. Stick to a Strategy
If you’re trying to change a behaviour, consistency is key. For example, if your toddler is struggling with bedtime, stick to a calm, predictable routine every night. Don’t expect immediate results; it might take a week or more for them to adjust. And if things don’t improve after trying a strategy consistently for a while, it may be time to tweak your approach.
10. Be Patient with Toilet Training
Toilet training can be tricky, and every child is different. Stay patient, keep a positive attitude, and avoid pressuring your toddler. If accidents happen, reassure them that it’s okay and keep the mood light. Consistency and encouragement go a long way in helping them develop the skills they need.
Conclusion
The toddler years are a time of rapid growth and change. By using positive language, modelling desired behaviours, teaching emotional expression, and staying consistent, you can help your toddler navigate this stage with confidence. Remember, while this time can be challenging, it’s also filled with milestones and moments of joy as your little one becomes more independent.
Terri Sheldon & Leanne Jones, Lakeside Rooms
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